It's not that friends matter more than you. It's just that they matter more than you when it comes to advice on some things. If your fifth grader is doing, saying, or wearing something that confuses you, check out what their peers are doing, saying, or wearing.
With a "lifetime" of experience under their belt and a "no fear" attitude, a Year-5 kid is virtually unstoppable. They are skilled, smart, and ready for the world to take notice. Fifth graders often thrive with competition because it's one more way to show you how smart and fast and strong they really are.
This is the top of the Primary school food chain. Year-5 students frequently demonstrate a clarity of mind that comes with knowing the ropes. Lean into that confidence and build it. Let them know you see their potential. They need to know you believe in them before they get to the next phase. There's no such thing as an overly confident middle schooler.
Your Year-5 kid can understand different points of view, empathise with others, and negotiate like a champ. That means one thing: Your influence is shifting. Your kid still needs you, but they are beginning to need you in a different way. If you want to engage their interests, then include peers, coach relational skills, and help your kid develop healthy friendships.
You help them learn when you... GIVE THEM A CHALLENGE.
You capture their heart when you ... DEVELOP FRIENDSHIPS
You coach their moral abilities when you ...INVITE OTHERS TO JOIN IN
In this phase where friendships matter more, so does your kid's faith community. As your kid gets ready to move into your church's youth ministry, look for ways to prioritise their church connection, and continue having faith conversations at home